In this day, way too many men have their lust out of control. They let it rule their lives rather than the other way around. Ever notice how miserable they are? Their example is all the reason why you need to get your lust under control.

However, I know from personal experience just how hard it can be to accomplish this. It truly is one of those things that is much easier said than done.

That being said, nothing worth obtaining ever comes easy. Control over your lust is one of those things, even if you have to fail a dozen times before you see any sign of progress.

It's time that men take control over their base instincts. Here are two reasons why you need to get your lust under control.

1. Greater focus and drive

Take a look at a man who's controlled by his lust and you'll notice something: he can't really focus on anything for too long. Once things get too hard, he falters and slinks back to his comfort zone. Lust corrupts by twisting your focus and drive.

Men who are controlled by their lust are also driven by it. They will do things that they believe will bring them closer to getting laid.

The keyword there is believe: they do things they believe will get them closer, whether it actually does or not is irrelevant.

They spend their days dreaming about how wonderful it'll be once they land the girl of their dreams and they can have all the steamy sex they want.

There are a few problems with this.

Firstly, the vast majority of men don't have any idea of how to actually get laid consistently. They do things that would make them want to have sex with her rather than things that would make her want to have sex with him.

Second, they are extrinsically motivated. They are motivated to do something by external reward rather than internal validation. It takes time to cultivate internal validation, but once you do it's invaluable to your life.

Men driven by lust are driven by something that isn't guaranteed in their darkest hour. Because of this, they are unable to perform when it really counts.

Not only this, but they are so easily controlled by sex that they are practically puppets in the hands of women.

Letting your lust out of control keeps you away from satisfying it by sapping you of the focus and drive required to become a desirable man.

2. Confidence/self-esteem

It's no longer a secret that men who watch pornography have issues with self-esteem, especially around women. I'm no expert on the science behind it, but having been there myself I can confirm that it's real. Letting your lust take over as a man is a fast-track one-way ticket to low self-esteem, and it's not enjoyable.

Sinking into to pits of depravity online has become a popular pastime for many men. They have so little action in their lives that they seek to supplement it in some way.

And so they choose the most destructive version of it: pornography. Men are so horny that they would destroy their mental health just to satisfy their sexual desires for a brief moment.

I can't blame them for it: I've been there so I get it. However, having gotten out of it I also can't deny how destructive it is.

Again, I'm no expert on the science but I've got a pretty good grasp of it.

Basically, subconsciously, we can't tell the difference between watching porn and having sex, but consciously we can. Our conscious brain is what makes us feel bad when we watch porn by telling us it knows that we're watching rather than actually doing it.

The conscious mind is capable of influencing the subconscious mind. If the subconscious mind is like a factory, then the conscious mind acts like a truck delivering supplies.

Depending on the supplies delivered, the subconscious mind creates different "products". If the material being delivered is telling you that you're a loser for indulging your lust, then the subconscious will churn out the belief that you're a loser who doesn't deserve the sex you want.

To top it all off, most men will escape from that by going deeper into the rabbit hole in the form of more indulgence. They can never say no after all, so it doesn't matter if they're a loser.

This process forms a vicious cycle that keeps men stuck and unable to control themselves around women because they see them as only sexual objects instead of as fellow human beings with a sexual side.

The longer you let your lust control the show, the worse your symptoms will get and the less confidence you'll have as a man.

The solution

It's perfectly natural for human beings to have a sexual side. In fact, it's part of being human to be sexual. The problem is the modern day is still influenced by the catholic faith which conditioned people to shy away from their sexuality.

There is a healthy way to express your sexuality, unlike the way modern society is encouraging women to behave. However, that's a topic that will be discussed next time; for now, I want you to let the content in this post really sink in.

- Karl