Changing yourself is easier than you thinkNov 01, 2023
Changing yourself is easier than you think. It isn't easy, but it isn't anywhere near as difficult as you may think. Today, we'll be going over how to make this process easier on yourself so you can make lasting changes.
The tips we'll be going over today are:
- Take it slow
- One thing at a time
- Repeated success leads to consistency
Changing yourself is natural
One disclaimer before we begin: change is natural and good. Don't think of change as being somebody you're not, but rather becoming who you want to be.
Nobody who developed the traits you want started out perfect. They had to go through trial and error. You will also go through this process.
With that out of the way, let's hop into it.
Slow and steady wins the race, change yourself at this pace
Think of somebody you know who is impatient. Notice how much extra trouble they cause themselves through their impatience, even if it's only in their head. As the old saying goes, haste makes waste. If you try to rush things, you will waste effort.
When it comes to changing yourself, it is a really slow and tedious process. A lot of the time, it happens in the background where you can't notice it.
For this reason, it can be very frustrating, especially if it's a change you've wanted for so long. Luckily, there's a way around it.
It's a concept like taking progress pictures. You don't notice the small changes until you have two points of comparison.
To really make your progress evident, you need to keep track of how far you've come exactly. Whether this be through progress pictures for your physique, or by writing down your rate of success with customers or sales, whatever it is, you want to keep track of it.
Then, when you have a moment where you start to lose confidence, take a look at your previous entries and compare them to your latest entry. You'll notice progress, even if it's a little bit.
The long process of changing yourself is a tedious one, so we track our progress to make it easier on our minds.
We are terrible at multitasking, so focus on one thing at a time
Contrary to popular belief, we are not built to multitask. If you take a closer look at what we call multitasking, you will notice that all the tasks that are being done lead to one singular goal being reached. Cleaning the house while cooking is doing multiple tasks at once, but they ultimately achieve the same goal of keeping the house in order. Keep this in mind when trying to change yourself.
If you try to do too many things at once, you will overload yourself. The last thing you want is to burn out while on the way up the mountain.
We humans are built to focus on one goal at a time. If you try to fit in too many goals at once, you will not get anywhere as quickly.
When trying to change, you want to pick a focus. This focus that you pick should be something that is very meaningful to you.
It could be weight loss, it could be learning how to code, it could be learning how to write. Whatever it is, make sure it has meaning to you.
Once you've picked it, you want to adopt the attitude of, "As long as I do this today and nothing else, I will make progress." When you take this approach to your focus, you accomplish so much more.
Getting things done is easier than you think, it's just that too many people overcomplicate by overloading. Reduce your workload and watch your productivity and quality of life improve.
Changing yourself requires consistency
As the old saying goes, practice makes perfect. The more you do something, the better you get at it. When it comes to change, the same thing applies. If you do not consistently engage in the behavior you want to adopt, then it will not come as quickly.
In order to exact the change you want to see, you need to show up every day and play out. This is why it's a long and tedious process.
Yes, it can get boring. Yes, it can get annoying. However, you need to stay on course and keep going if you want to reach your goal.
Taking things like progress pictures is meant to help with consistency, but sometimes, you need to use a little elbow grease and willpower. There will be times when you need to just do it.
When we face that resistance to doing our tasks, it's our minds telling us to be lazy and conserve energy. That friction is a mechanism that kept us alive back in the day, but now does nothing but hold us back.
To get over this friction, understand that there is a reward on the other side waiting for you. Whether it be the satisfaction of doing your work or reaching a new milestone, that reward can only be achieved if you take the steps to claim it.
This is another skill to develop in the realm of learning and growing. It's one that will come to you the more you use it. Changing yourself requires you to know when to do the work.
By consistently choosing to do the hard work instead of being lazy, you will become better and better at being disciplined.
Change yourself into who you want to be
As stated before, changing behavior to become who you want is not the same as being somebody you're not. One requires you to pretend, the other requires you to use effort.
Becoming the man you want to be requires that you have the courage and tenacity to exact the change you desire. It's a long process, but it's very much worthwhile.