The worst of the internet stays on the internet

mental health social skills Oct 04, 2023
The worst of the internet stays on the internet

So many people go about daily life thinking that what they see on the internet is what they'll see in real life. Sure, you may encounter a bad apple here or there, but generally speaking people are pleasant and fun to interact with. We base so much of our lives around the internet that many people don't see that the worst of the internet stays on the internet. 

Those venomous people you see on Twitter? They stay on Twitter. What about the incorrigible attention seekers? They're glued to their phones and the apps they use for attention.

As you'll notice with the people in your own life, people in general want to get along with fun and interesting people. You can't be either of those if you're part of the cesspit that is modernity.

Let it be known - the worst of the internet stays on the internet. Here are 3 strategies to help you internalize this point, with specific examples.

1. Femcel? Incel? How about you sell yourself as a cool person

I have confidence that you've heard of incels, but probably not femcels. They're pretty much the same thing, people who are trying to ruin dating for the general public so they can get more options. Fortunately, the majority of people are sensible enough to roll their eyes at the nonsense of these people.

By far the biggest thing impacting men these days, especially young men, is the prevalence of being a 'high-value male.' As good as this message is, the channels through which it's delivered are nowhere near ideal.

As men, we should be pursuing these things which improve our lives because they improve our lives. Things like exercise, finances, a social life, and social skills.

The problem with the modern channels for this message is they also spread a lot of unneeded hatred with it. For the incels, it's the red pill, and for the femcels, it's things like feminism and fat acceptance.

On the side of incels, the message is constantly that women only want men who satisfy their instinctual desires. They only want the men at the top of the totem pole.

On top of this, the red pill constantly tells these guys that women have it so much easier, creating a terrible dynamic. These guys end up hating women while being constantly obsessed with them.

On the side of femcels, the message is that if a guy doesn't accept them, it's because of hate or unfair biases internalized from the patriarchy.  They want all men to be attracted to them, even if they aren't attractive.

To protect their arguments, they'll constantly bring up things like racism, ableism, fatphobia, or white supremacy as a means of detecting any points against them. Whatever shield they use, they only prove more that they are unattractive.

So, here's the good news. These people are perpetually on the internet. Meaning, that the cool people you'd actually want to hang around aren't.

Couple that with the fact that most people these days are starved for meaningful and/or interesting interactions, and you have a simple solution to this. Become the most interesting version of yourself that you can muster, then do your best to sell that to other people.

This leads to a very easy funnel-style way of interacting with others. If they're able to vibe with you, great. You've found somebody you get along with. This can apply to dating, making friends, business meetings, and even family gatherings.

On the other hand, if you don't vibe with them, understand that it's not entirely your fault, only a little bit your fault. Sure, you may have said something to upset them, but you cannot control how someone will react to what you say.

You can only control your own actions. If you present your best self, your chances of finding people you get along with, romantically or otherwise, will skyrocket.

2. How to Handle a Karen 101 

 I don't know about you, but I've gotten pretty tired of the whole equality rhetoric of the feminist movement. Sure, having equal playing fields for both genders has its upsides, but every upside has its downside. Unfortunately, a lot of people who get sucked into this movement don't realize just how much things have gotten messed up because of it.

Let's get one thing clear: everybody should have the opportunity of a fair chance, on top of the right to earn that opportunity whether this be in attraction, work, friendship, or any personal endeavor. 

However, as much as you have the right to earn the opportunity, those who you wish to earn it from will always reserve the right to deny you that opportunity. This concept seems to be lost in the modern day amongst the madness.

Rather than raising people to earn opportunities and privileges, we have a generation that is so entitled that they believe they should get what they want because they want it. And if you disagree, you're a bigot or a misogynist or whatever.

For these types of scenarios, I've got two tips for you. 

Number one, if someone accuses you of being a misogynist for example, then agree with it. Normally, you'd amplify after agreeing, but these kinds of people don't have a sense of humor, so it's better if you don't.

When these people call you this type of thing, they're looking to get a reaction out of you. The fastest way to snuff out their fire is to 'fall' into the trap that most other internet dwellers wouldn't dare to.

Number two, remember that these people are still humans. What this means is that they still have a desire to connect and be social.

In general, people prefer socializing with people who are fun and bring the mood up. These social justice warrior types are the exact kind of people who will bring the mood down just for their own vindication.

All you have to do is isolate them by not giving them the reaction they want from you, and they're forced into a decision: either change your tune or be a broken record. This will show you very quickly who they are.

If they change their tune, there's some hope for them. You can be confident that the storm has passed for now and you can relax. 

If they choose to be a broken record, not only do you simply repeat the tactic from before, but you now know that you should avoid them in the future. They've done the hard work for you, so you can relax.

Despite what the internet may portray them as these kinds of people are very easy to deal with. Their narcissism blinds them from seeing that not everybody sees the world they see it. Once you make them stumble upon their very shaky foundation, you need only stay firm and you'll find yourself as free as before.

3. Diversity - the most divisive topic of the modern day

No doubt you've seen or experienced the bullshit that is diversity in the modern day. Yes, let's include people from different backgrounds, as we should be doing. However, that's no justification for accepting people who aren't qualified. 

There's a big difference between hiring a diverse crowd of folks because they're qualified, and hiring a diverse crowd of folks because of a quota. One leads to productivity, one leads to destruction and stagnation.

In case it wasn't clear, for society to stay as a well-oiled machine, we must choose qualification over quotas. It does nobody good if we choose people based on diversifying variables instead of fortifying productivity.

This is basically an extension of the last point, but it's significant enough that I believe it deserves its own point. Diversity of skin color or ethnicity means nothing if we don't have diversity of ideas.

Having different skin colors means nothing if we all think the same. Looking different or unique is worthless if we all act the same.

Because of this, diversity in its current iteration is absolutely stupid. Luckily, there's an easy way to handle it. Simply put, vibe-check them. 

If someone is unable to accept that your ideas are different, they aren't worth interacting with. This can include people who are close to you.

The whole narrative that we must accept a diverse range of people because of something they can't control is not raising them up. It's the opposite; it's actively dragging these people through the mud.

That's exactly what these people will do to you if you give in to their ideas. They will drag you through the mud of their movement because they believe it's what's right.

Those who earn their right to be accepted are the ones you want to interact with. Those who just expect it are the worst types to hang around.

Not only will you need to be able to vibe check for how well you get along, but you must also be able to vibe check for whether or not they are closed-minded or not. Luckily, this is an easy skill to pick up so you won't have too much trouble with it.

Touch your lawn

Of course, the easiest way to deal with the worst of the internet is to go outside more. Remember, these people live for the attention they get on the internet. Why would they disconnect themselves from that?

As mentioned, you will encounter a bad apple here and there but they're easy to deal with. They lack an open sense of humor so your options are limited, but limited in the best way possible.

Finally, surround yourself with good influences. They may be rarer today than ever, but finding them is worthwhile. They are the kind of people who will always pass the vibe check.

- Karl